8 Ways to Reconnect and Strengthen Your Relationship

Below you’ll find 8 ways to keep your relationship strong

1. Don’t try to change your partner.

As frustrating as it sometimes can be, you and I both know we can’t really change anyone. We can demand changes, but they will only really change if they want to make a change. People truly accepts other when they feels that them genuinely accepts them for who they are. There is so much power behind people who inspires their lover to become a better version of themselves without making them feel that they needs to change.

2. Recognize that all relationships have their ups and downs.

Just as you can’t expect to be happy all the time, you shouldn’t expect your relationship to be at a continuous high. When you make a long-term commitment to someone you have to be willing to ride the highs, as well as the lows, together.

3. Use the word “we”.

Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., explains that researcher Robert Levenson and his colleagues at the University of California, Berkeley, found that couples who use the word “we” when talking are happier, calmer, and in general are more satisfied with their relationships than couples whose communication is more populated by the pronouns “you”, “me” and “I”.

Dr. Chansky explains that the word “we” is a game changer. It sets off a program of contentedness in the brain so that instead of being in a “you vs. me” mindset, we’re in a collaborative mindset. This collaborative mindset makes us more loving and generous.

4. Keep the playfulness alive.

We all love to play, regardless of our age. Do the following: have fun together; do something ridiculous together; and just let go. In addition, the next time that your partner says something that bothers you, try responding with a joke instead of getting defensive.

5. Give your partner space.

The philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer used porcupines to explain a dilemma which often exists in human relationships. Two porcupines trying to keep warm will move closer to one another. However, if they get too close they prick each other with their spines.

6. Say “I love you” with your actions.

Perform little acts of kindness for your partner that let them know you love them. Some ideas include the following:

• Warm her car on a cold morning.

• Bring home take-out from his favorite Chinese restaurant.

• Get up fifteen minutes before she does so that breakfast is ready when she walks into the kitchen.

• When you’re out shopping get him a little surprise gift.

7. Set goals as a couple.

Be a team of two that’s striving to achieve a set of goals that you’ve set together and that are important to both of you. By setting goals together you’ll be achieving all of the following:

• You’ll make sure that you’re both moving in the same direction.

• Your wins are their wins.

• You can celebrate together each time you achieve a milestone.

8. Don’t Hold On To Every Little Thing

One of the most toxic traits in a relationship is keeping score. Your partner forgot to take out the bins, so you’re seething with anger. You didn’t take the chicken out of the freezer, so your partner called you selfish. Passive aggressive behavior like this indicates that there is a serious problem in the relationship, but instead of addressing it you both continue to obsess over the little things.

If you can relate to this, try to work on being more relaxed and positive.

Remind yourself every day that happiness is built on patience, love and understanding – not resentment and pettiness

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